As a wedding photographer, I’ve had the deep honor of documenting love in all its forms. There’s something profoundly beautiful about capturing two people choosing each other and promising to walk through life side by side. For LGBTQ+ couples, those moments are often layered with even more meaning — resilience, joy, pride, and the celebration of a love that hasn’t always been seen or supported by the world.
If you're in the middle of planning your wedding and looking for a photographer who will not only make you feel seen, but also celebrated, here are my top five tips for finding someone who truly gets it — and you.
Look for Representation in Their Portfolio
If a photographer has experience working with LGBTQ+ couples, they’re more likely to understand the unique dynamics, needs, and beautiful nuances of your relationship. From communication, to posing, to everything that goes into your wedding day, it’s important to have a photographer who is willing to go the extra mile when it comes to what makes YOU comfortable and confident.
One word of caution here…if you find a photographer you love and they don’t have a lot of LGBTQ+ representation in their portfolio, don’t immediately discount them. I have had the honor of photographing a handful of LGBTQ+ weddings and elopements, but not nearly as many as I would like. Many of my photographer friends haven’t had the opportunity at all, as much as they would love to. If a certain photographer's portfolio doesn't have a lot of LGBTQ+ representation, I urge you to ask them why – maybe your favorite photographer just hasn’t had the opportunity to work with the community before but would jump at the chance to give you the most incredible wedding photos you could imagine!
Do They Use Gender Neutral Language
I know that I have personally spent a lot of time going through my website, blog posts, contracts and guides to make sure I use gender neutral language as much as possible. I try my very best to default to things like “wedding party” over “bridal party” and “partner” over the terms “bride”/“groom”. This took some education and intention on my part, but I am willing to go the extra mile to make sure anyone who lands on my website feels included, and if your chosen photographer is a true ally, they will have done the same.
This isn't to say we won't make mistakes - I know I'm not infallible when it comes to language, but this is a case of overall "intention" over "execution". Look for someone who is willing to learn, accomodate and grow!
Don’t be Afraid to Ask Directly
It’s absolutely okay (and encouraged!) to ask a potential photographer if they have experience with LGBTQ+ weddings and how they ensure their services are inclusive. A true ally won’t be defensive — they’ll be grateful you asked and happy to share their values and approach. You're not just hiring someone to take photos; you're inviting them into one of the most intimate, emotional days of your life. You deserve to feel safe, seen, and respected.
Check Reviews and Word of Mouth
Sometimes, the best insight comes from those who’ve been in your shoes. Ask around in your friend group or in LGBTQ+ wedding planning groups to see if someone can recommend a photographer who is 100% inclusive – this is how I’ve personally found many of my clients. Hearing firsthand how a photographer made someone feel — whether they went the extra mile to honor a chosen family, were thoughtful during a nontraditional ceremony, or created a space where vulnerability felt safe — speaks volumes.
Don’t be Afraid to Ask for an In Person Meeting or Schedule an Engagement Session First
Sometimes you just can’t get a great feel for someone over the phone or through email. Never be afraid to ask for a video chat or an in-person meeting with a perspective photographer. If you’re almost sure of a photographer, but want to work with them before committing, ask if you can schedule your Engagement Session before finalizing your Wedding Photography Contract. A photographer who is understanding of how important it is for members of the LGBTQ+ community to feel completely comfortable with their vendors will be happy to oblige.
Trust Your Gut — And Your Connection
Beyond the logistics and aesthetics, there’s something to be said for chemistry. Do you feel comfortable with this person as your Wedding Photographer? Do they listen when you talk about your story, your vision, your people? Do them seem genuinely interested in you and your day? You don't just want someone who is going through the motions of being inclusive, you want someone who is truly excited about the opportunity to create something amazing for you. The best photos happen when there's trust and ease between you and your photographer. If you feel like you can be your full, glorious self with them — that’s a sign you’ve found the right person.
Finding someone who honors and uplifts your love isn't just about ticking boxes. It’s about surrounding yourself with vendors who are just as excited as you are to witness and celebrate your story — exactly as you are. You deserve nothing less. If you’re on this journey and need someone in your corner, I’d be honored to hear your story. Feel free to Contact Me!